THINKING PATTERN- CHECK THIS OUT

Our thinking pattern, decides our behavioral pattern. When already, one is in painful condition, is compared to worst condition.

“At least you are in condition to earn to get food when lots of people don’t get even one time meal.”“You’re not the worst off”

These statements when we get, I feel it’s like demotivating phrases.

How can we console people by saying “Though you lost your father in accident at least you survived to take care of your mother”.

In a domestic violence case, when women says “though my husband beats me, having relations with other women, my mother- in -law is not good, my life is torture, still when I compare I feel I am safe at least I am not living a life of a prostitute” . I was surprised how she manages to compare life and console herself.

How can one be so grateful to such conditions. This shows that conditions in which you are is better than those people whom you are considering worst.

Those people are the only who are in worst situation and should only feel depressed, bad , tortured and no one else.Such people only have right to be unhappy and dissatisfied with their life.

How can we compare painful condition with worst? Why we do so? Many things affect such cognitive process.

First – Many people are preaching now a days, see people who are disabled , they can do, and you are depressed.Our disability can become our strength but our condition in which are not feeling we are able , cannot give its immediate strength with such illogical comparison.

Why we forget everyone is Individual.

Secondly – Think about our parentsand social groups, this thinking pattern is not new, was in our parents and grandparents and so on.

Thirdly -- our own personality traits.

Fourthly, we want to show we are strong or acceptable or agreeable by statement there are one more people who are in more pain.

Finally I feel, people say such comparative sentence to avoid any more suggestive statements which are more painful.

Time runs out , weather changes , everything is temporary. What is right today can be wrong tomorrow. We have Right to feel low, sometimes depressed. We should not label or compare us in scales determined by others.

If situation is , may be mental, physical, emotional , financial, intolerable is for individual in a specific situation.

Time always moves , dates changes. Days and nights have cycles. Stop such comparison to kill Individuality, Why we forget we are taught don’t compare.

BY MAMTA JAIN AGRAWAL